Has your attitude ever gotten you into trouble? Have you ever said something, only to have it come back and bite you in the ass later? Have you ever said something that sounded relatively reasonable, only to find out later that it was taken wrongly, or at least not as you intended? I sure have. And recently, too!
I think we have all had the same, or at least a similar, situation at some point. What, in my opinion, defines the moment is NOT the ability to win the other person over to your point of view, but rather, to understand THEIR point of view! To realize "Oh fuck, did what I said REALLY just sound like that?" To see how your words could have been misconstrued and to see if changes can be made in the future to help prevent future occurances from happening.
To empathize and to understand the position of another. To understand that others may have just as strong of feelings opposing yours. That does not make them wrong, or you right, for that matter. It means that they have their own opinion, and that it should be respected. Attack ideas, NOT people! That is a fundamental rule here, and one that it appears others feel I have crossed. I am not arguing this, and I am damn sure not arguing (or even acknowledging) the rep-positive AND negative-that was given.
However, I will not dumb down in an attempt to please everyone. Or anyone. I will continue to voice my opinion, and I will continue to hope that others will understand.
Empathy goes both ways, you know. I will try to understand you, as long as you do the same for me. Judging others for supposed harshness when all that was done was stating an opinion can lead to harsh judgement of others for stating their opinions. Tit for tat?
I think not. Why? well, quite frankly, deep down inside, I don't give a fuck. My opinion is my own, and while I will be careful as to how I express that opinion in the future, I will NOT change it. You don't like my opinion, too bad. It's an OPINION! Feel free to try and change it. But don't make all-inclusive judgmental statements and the expect me NOT to respond! Lose the rhetoric and lets deal from a position of mutual respect. Express your opinion, but be willing to defend it as well. In a well-reasoned and logical manner, not an overly emotional one.
Or not! Make the choice to go the other way! Again, I really do not care. While rep and promotions are nice, that is not why I am here. Never has been, either.
Attitudes. Mine has been kind of shitty lately apparently. Oh well. I'll get over it, but will you? After all, it is YOUR choice to be offended. It is YOUR choice to get an incorrect read on a situation. It is YOUR choice to be judgmental and it is your choice to be excessively punitive.
Just like it is mine. Lets both try to make the right choice from now on, shall we? I will.
The next day. I have no idea why I am doing it like this, rather than the way I normally do!
Well, in the light of day and after going through all of this again, thinking about the situation and reviewing everything, I find that my attitude is still a bit shitty. I think that I stated an opinion and was criticized/penalized for that because the person in whose opinion I found fault with didn't like what I had to say. I also think that the criticism was unfair, as was the implication that I was attacking the person, rather than the idea. My post clearly indicated that I found fault with the persons words, and NOT with the person themselves.
I will not apologize for offering an unpopular opinion. Since when does that even require an apology? Nor will I apologize any longer because someone took offense with my opinion. I stated a fact as I saw it. That is my opinion and if you don't like it, tough shit. I am not "politically correct" and if your widdle feelwings were hurt, oh well. Grow the fuck up and quit being a baby. If you have a problem with my words, then approach me as an adult, and find out what in the fuck I meant before you automatically assume that I'm out to get you. In all likelihood, once I recognize your concern (I am blind once on a while, just like everybody else!), I will make the appropriate adjustments. To hide behind anonymous red or green stars and cry is childish. Not that I am complaining or even discussing rep! Although it should be obvious from other left rep comments that, as in all things, people have differing opinions.
I also want to make it perfectly clear that the above paragraph is not directed to any one person. It is the "royal" you, not "you" personally to which I refer. For some reason, I find this entire situation to be personally disturbing. More so than it truly warrants, I believe. Why? Well, there is the whole thing about being misunderstood to begin with. That, more than anything else, really bugs the shit out of me. I like to understand clearly and be understood just as clearly, and that broke down. Then, there is the attitude that I did this deliberately and with malice aforethought. The excessive penalization. The unwillingness to consider the fact that maybe I DID have a point, even though it was (apparently) vocalized in a manner which was found wanting by some. I have looked at my previous posts, and I do not see where I was wrong. Was I critical? Yes, I was. Perhaps even a bit harsh. But nothing that I said was untrue. As far as I can find, at least.
At this point, I see two possible courses which can be charted. One, in which all parties involved come to the conclusion that, while being responsible for your words and actions is the mark of an adult, mistakes can and do occasionally occur, and they should be treated as such and without excessive drama and penalty. The other is one in which childish behavior continues and the rift is not bridged, leading to bad feelings all around. Participation in the first course is the only option for me, and it is the only option that I will even consider, for that matter.
As far as I am concerned, the entire matter is concluded. I accept full and complete responsibility for my words and subsequent actions and I have no desire at all to broaden the rift. I hope that is acceptable, because that is all you get. And this was written while in the grip of some residual anger, so once again (although it doesn't seem to mean anything anymore. Except maybe to me.) if anyone was offended by my statements, I apologize. I use this as an outlet to reflect and release, and this has certainly been a release! It is not, nor has it ever been, my intention to deliberately offend anyone.