1. Dear Drugs-Forum readers: We are a small non-profit that runs one of the most read drug information & addiction help websites in the world. We serve over 4 million readers per month, and have costs like all popular websites: servers, hosting, licenses and software. To protect our independence we do not run ads. We take no government funds. We run on donations which average $25. If everyone reading this would donate $5 then this fund raiser would be done in an hour. If Drugs-Forum is useful to you, take one minute to keep it online another year by donating whatever you can today. Donations are currently not sufficient to pay our bills and keep the site up. Your help is most welcome. Thank you.
    PLEASE HELP
  1. LottaQuixotic
    I swallowed it all. Now, I'm trying to spit it out and it's leaving a bad taste in my mouth.
    Having always been a very private person, writing openly about myself is uncomfortable. It would require an invasion of a greater discomfort to inspire my considering writing as a relief. Abject misery is the only compelling motivator that could drive me to actually put my words out 'there'. That misery arrived this past Monday, 1/26, courtesy of a Google search.

    I don't know if I'm the only person who searches for misplaced friends and family and former flames by submitting their name to the internet gods. I've been doing this every year without fail since 1996 for at least one person. The changes in technology and user adoption improves the search results each year. Monday, I began the search for someone I lost contact with in 2006. Last year, the query string returned '3' hits. That was a 300% improvement from the 0 hits of 2006 - 2008. The search returned 100's of hits this time and the first result said more than I wanted to know.
    Jeff is dead. He committed suicide May 9th. No one knew this until June 12th. Jeff was someone I've loved for a very long time and for very good reason. He deserved better.
    And the misery is enough to force me to spit it out..bad taste or not..
    Because of how it happened. Because it will happen, again, if I don't resolve to change things that weaken my resistance to the visitor that has long overextended their stay. That would be Judas. My Judas Beast.

Comments

  1. beentheredonethatagain
    what is it that you swallowed?
  2. LottaQuixotic
    Nothing lethal ;-)
    It was a metaphorical reference to personal withholding.
  3. coolhandluke
    wow thats some heavy shit, im sorry to hear for your loss. its too bad he wasn't in touch with you so you could have gone to the funeral at least. sorry for your loss.
  4. beentheredonethatagain
    from the title of the blog , it sounded like ... well I'm not going there.
  5. LottaQuixotic
    I've got mad captivating title skills. Following that up with relevant, non-enigmatic content? Not so much.
    :s
  6. LottaQuixotic
    Hey, thank you for this. Just the recognition from another person makes it less miserable to sit with. I guess that's why I had to put it out there.
  7. The Cats Dream
    Very powerful, thank you for that...
  8. sassyspy
    I appreciate you sharing something so personal.
    I am so sorry for your loss, and whatever happened, please, stop taking the blame. :vibes:

    I assume there is more to the story, and I hope you will always feel comfortable enough to write down your thoughts here.
    You write really well, I was drawn in as if I were reading a novel.
    lol. I am female, and your title is what caught my eye!
To make a comment simply sign up and become a member!