in this day and age,the kids have it much tougher than we did as kids.
cyberspace,how detrimental this can be on a developing personality.
these kids spend too much time online.social media especially.
in my home we allow no social media of any kind.we are a facebook,myspace,twitter,IG,or any other form out there,free home.
i am trying anyways.
i have an 11 year old daughter and a 9 year old son.
where theres a will theres a way.kids will find a way when they're determined enough.
i have caught my daughter on "KIK" against my wishes 3x now.this is a newer place for the kids to congregate.she lost her tablet for a month each time.and i set a pattern lock so that only i can open it now.
when the norm these days is to post and share every little aspect of your life,its hard to regulate your childs internet use.
they want to be doing whats seen as normal.they want to be part of the in crowd.
but,theres just so much drama and flat out meanness floating around cyberspace,allowing your child to subject themselves to this is a very risky situation.
i myself have found our family right smack dab in the middle of a cyberbullys attacks,against my daughter.
and we happen to know the bully is a mother,in the neighborhood,hiding behind her daughters profile.
they used this "kik" site to do it.
also,we have been sent full nude crotch shots from grown men on this site.
saying this so parents are aware.dont let this kiddy image for this site fool you!
we decided the safest and most confrontational free approach was to completely stop anyway for this person to contact my child,online.
but,not every parent,or child,feels able or willing to be open with their parents,or child.its a hard situation.but you cant just sit by and hope that things will turn out for the best.
you have to apply yourself and put forth the effort to protect your kid.
this whole situation makes me remember the megan meier story a few years back.
13 year old girl hangs herself because of cyber attacks.
from a neighbor,a mother even.
these people created an entire fake profile with the intent on lifting this childs spirits,just so they could bring her down in the end.and it worked.its heart breaking.
the problem is people in america are protected by the first amendment,freedom of speach.
but,when the person is hiding behind a phony image,thats not freedom of speech,is it?
it'd be a completely different situation if the attacker was using their true name and true image.like,hi,this is me,you know me,and i have this that and the other to say about you.
thats different.thats freedom of speech.
so,what can parents and kids do about it.
we have to do something.we cant just ignore it and hope it doesnt happen to your family.
i vow,that i will never allow my children to sit online for hours unsupervised.
i will never allow my kids to be on social media.may be drastic,but my kids state of well being is more important.
and i vow,if i ever see that a person we cannot identify as a real life person we know,they will be blocked deleted or whatever needs to be done.
and most importantly i vow to listen,and ask questions.
i just told my daughter during an argument over this that i am trying to save her problems.i am trying to protect her.i told her,isnt your life so much easier when you dont have to spend time and energy over worrying about things said online.
these kids grow a huge set of balls when speaking online.its like they forget that they have to face each other the next day.
only complicating their lives.
parent equals protector in latin terms,thats my job,to do my best to protect my kids from harm.
so,i have wrote this blog as an attempt to shed light on this topic.
this is very important,and a major factor in kids these days lives.
if 10 people read this blog,then decide to go review their childs device they use for internet,then my effort here has been served.
talk to your kids.listen to them.tell them words cannot hurt them.
most likely they wont come to us,we have to bring it up.
and before they're already suffering.
be proactive,not hopeful and naive.