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Q. Did You Ever Smoke Pot? A. It’s Complicated.

  1. RaverHippie
    Q. Did You Ever Smoke Pot? A. It’s Complicated.

    Many years ago, when I was a resident in pediatrics, an adolescent patient asked me if I had ever smoked pot. It wasn’t a friendly question, more an oh-yeah-says-you response to my own inquiries, warning me off.

    No patient has asked me that for decades. But recently, I have found myself in several all-pediatrician conversations about the topic.

    Doctors, and the parents who look to them for advice, need a way to integrate their standards of honesty with what we know about preventing substance abuse — and with new research that makes it clear we know a lot more today than anyone did when we were young. (Which may help explain some of the dumb decisions made by so many of us, including me.)

    In particular, scientists understand much more about the neurobiology of the teenage brain and the risks of experimenting with drugs and alcohol during adolescence. While we used to think the brain was relatively mature by 16 or 18, in fact it is still developing into the mid-20s.

    What does develop early is the pleasure-seeking area, the nucleus accumbens. The regions that help with abstract thinking, decision-making and judgment are still maturing, and therefore less likely to inhibit the pleasure-seeking behavior. So drugs and alcohol can actually lead to permanent changes in the way the brain works — in particular, many experts think, a greater likelihood of addiction in adulthood.

    But giving sage advice to the young has never been a simple task, and when a parent’s own history is brought up, it gets even more complicated.

    There’s a moral question, for grown-ups who pride themselves on honesty and openness. There’s a fear that no matter how carefully you spell out the lesson of your own story, you may be offering your child an implicit lesson about the lack of consequences, a kind of I-did-it-and-I’m-fine parable.

    And there’s a common parental anxiety about losing the moral high ground, a fear that someday this will be thrown back in your face. That can be especially troubling in more fraught situations, when children or parents (or both) are dealing with drug and alcohol problems.

    “That comes up all the time when I’m counseling parents,” said Dr. Sharon Levy, director of the adolescent substance abuse program at Children’s Hospital Boston. “They say, ‘Well, what should I tell her — or not?’ ”The research on this point is limited. But there is evidence to suggest that when parents provide more information and better modeling early on, their children’s risk of substance abuse goes down. And a 2009 study by the Hazelden addiction treatment center in Minnesota found evidence that many teenagers believed that parental honesty about alcohol use was a positive influence.

    Of course, every parent, every child and every situation is different, and there is no fixed rule that says parents and doctors need to offer any particular information about their drug or alcohol use, past or present.

    Instead, it’s important to figure out “why are you asking, what’s going on around you?” said Dr. Janet F. Williams, professor of pediatrics at the University of Texas Health Science Center at San Antonio and head of the American Academy of Pediatrics’ committee on substance abuse.

    “What you think they want to know may not be at all why they’re asking,” she said. And as with other important conversations, take account of the child’s developmental stage; you answer a question from a 12-year-old and a 22-year-old in different terms and in different detail.

    You don’t need to tell everything. But if you decide to answer, don’t lie. “Tell them without glorifying it,” Dr. Levy said, “and if you think you made a mistake, tell them that too.”

    In fact, a child who asks a parent this question may be worrying over how and when to bring it up. Don’t assume that the agonizing and the self-consciousness are all on your conflicted, guilty parental side.

    Treat the question with respect, and use it, as the experts would say, to keep the conversation going. It may not be a question you particularly want to be asked, but it’s a larger conversation that as parents, we know we need to encourage. (Two useful Web sites are teens.drugabuse.gov, which has information geared to adolescents; and teen-safe.org, which offers advice on talking with teenagers.)

    What about that familiar parental nightmare, the angry adolescent who reacts to discipline or reproof by turning it around on you with an accusation about your own transgressions? Deborah R. Simkin, a psychiatrist who is a liaison to Dr. Williams’s committee from the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry, drew an analogy to an alcoholic who resists treatment by trying to bring up other people’s issues.

    “The kid’s trying to divert the attention from an appropriate intervention by a parent,” she said. In such cases, the parent’s response should be clear: “We’re not going to discuss what I did, we’re going to discuss what you did.”

    What we want to do as parents is transmit wisdom — even if we acquired it the hard way — without our children’s having to take risks. “So you drove without a seat belt and you didn’t die in a car accident, does that mean you want your kid driving without a seat belt?” Dr. Levy asked. Or as Dr. Williams put it:

    “If the way it’s presented is, ‘This is risky, and I hope that you don’t have to touch the hot stove to find out you get burned,’ they don’t have to take the same chance.”

    And finally, after all the cautions and the anxieties, it’s essential to come back to the positives — “always remembering to notice the good about your child,” Dr. Williams said.

    After all, the most important message a parent can give is not about the mistakes that can derail a child, but about the joys of finding your way.

    Tell your child, in Dr. Simkin’s words, that “I would prefer you to work on finding your passion, finding what in life you want to do” — and celebrate that potential.

    And for that very reason, Dr. Williams said, “I would like them to have every brain cell they can have.”



    Published: July 12, 2010


  1. RaverHippie
    Talking to Kids About Your Drug Use

    “Have you ever used drugs?”

    In today’s 18 and Under column, pediatrician Dr. Perri Klass offers advice for parents and doctors on how best to answer a child’s question about their own past behaviors.

    Read the full column, “Q. Did You Ever Smoke Pot? A. It’s Complicated,” and then please join the discussion below.



    July 12, 2010, 4:46 pm

  2. RaoulDuke32
    while pot might not have increased swims IQ, it opened his mind when he needed it. as someone who has done psychedelics and know there is so much more to life, i dont know how one cant speculate on the different interpretations to adolescent brains being altered. mental and spiritual development are not easily shown by mainstream science. swims just sayin...some kids might be fryin there brains while others attain liberation, and swim doubts that burnouts are cause by drugs. its people who are stupid and people who cause stupidity, not drugs. it might make kids compulsive though, but once again, if its in your genes to be an addict....ya cant really fight it.
  3. Indigenous
    So certain people are just born to be addicts? I don't buy that. I know self-control is more difficult for some people than others, but it's never impossible.
  4. EscapeDummy
    Swim visited teens.drugabuse.gov. Pretty entertaining site, to be quite honest. There are relatively few direct fabrications, but plenty of sensationalism and exaggeration.
  5. corvardus
    Indeed. Plasticity of the brain (link) has been suggested as a cause for addiction and so a genetically in-plasticity can be inferred. This would explain why "self-control" is more difficult than in others.
  6. Ace of Ace
    Swim thinks addiction is more of a learned behavior based on not only how they were raised and how there brain operates but also how there primary role models acted. So every body's chances of addiction is different as well as there chance to break addiction.
  7. Tamis
    hmm, mistake (this post is an error)... somehow... sorry (plz delete) :/
  8. RaoulDuke32
    addiction is a learned behavior as well as genetic. how else can some people do drugs occasionally while others fall prey to addiction so easily? everyone is different.
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