No idea how I got here, feeling a bit lost :( (but found myself again a happy ending) - Part 31

By cbabycee · Jan 28, 2015 · ·
  1. Re: No idea how I got here, feeling a bit lost :(

    Think im the only one reading this but I need help.

    Tonight has not been great I get home from my work and boyfriend is not hom, he been off all day so I know he been drinking and his car gone.

    An hour later I get a call saying bab I smashed my car up can u come. He at the botto
    Of our street with my youngest son hit a parked car bad written on his car, the car he hit and damage to another car. He's blew 59 and he's in the police cells. I love him so much but I'm so angry my son ok but what if he wasn't?? I'm really conflicted i don't know what to do.

    He needs to admit he has a problem with drinking. I hope this will make him get help. He has stood by me through my addiction; but my addiction has never put my kids at physical harm. I will stand by him if he gets help. He will be torturing himself right now he loves my son to bits and will be devastated that he could have got hurt.

    He will need to go to alcohol support this is his 2nd drink drive offense in 3 years with a DD10 3 years ago.

    Anyone in the uk any idea about drinking convictions?? I'm guessing a 3 year ban and hefty fine + costs. Maybe more favourable if he gets help.

    For one moment I really thought fuck this I need a bag. But I took the kids to maccies instead. And fuck that that isn't gonna help.

    I'm just so mixed emotions and not knowing what's going on is killing me I don't think he'll be home tonight thats for sure and I have work tomorrow.

    Don't know what to do anyone out there???


  1. Kitts
    Re: No idea how I got here, feeling a bit lost :(

    Well done for putting your recovery ahead of this calamity Cee. Using would only make things 100 times worse as you know. Maccys was a good choice. :thumbsup:

    Is he in the cells overnight? He's likely to feel very bad tomorrow, contrite, and possibly will agree to getting help. Presumably your local drug service/centre deals with drinking problems too? Might he come along with you?

    I'm here if there's anything I can do to help. Or just to chat. Hang on in there. It will be ok Cee xx
  2. soso
    Re: No idea how I got here, feeling a bit lost :(

    Well that's fuckin typical, when everything was going good and you was feeling so positive something happens to fuck it up. You should be proud you had the strength and willpower to not crumble and score.
    I'd be so pissed off if my mrs had done that especially with one of the kids in the car.
    To be honest cee I got no sympathy for drink drivers, he's lucky no one was injured or killed.
    I feel sorry for how a long ban will affect you and your kids though, taxis can get expensive and you having to do all the driving for years will be shit.
    Ive seen this sort of thing a lot, people get clean and start to do well then something comes along that fucks it up. When I got clean after 17 years a couple months later my dad died, I came so close to using again but I didn't and once I had got past that I knew nothing would ever happen that would make me go back to drugs.
    Don't let him doing something stupid fuck up all the hard work youve done.
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