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Addicted to Meth and Porn

Discussion in 'Sex and Drugs' started by LostGirl-in-a-LostWorld, Apr 14, 2013.

  1. LostGirl-in-a-LostWorld

    LostGirl-in-a-LostWorld Silver Member

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    My boyfriend is addicted to meth and porn. Do these things usually go hand in hand? Now I know guys watch porn, that's normal, even I like porn sometimes. But he watches it every single night and stays in the bathroom for hours. This normally wouldn't bother me so much except he watches it more than we have sex. If I got the same attention, perhaps it wouldn't irk me as much. I don't know. Thoughts?
     
  2. hookedonhelping

    hookedonhelping Titanium Member

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    Maybe you should share these sentiments with him? If he is in the dark about your feelings regarding the amount of time he spends wanking, this will only become more threatening to your relationship over time. Perhaps confronting him about this in a seductive manner will yield positive results?

    And to answer your first question, yes these two activities go rather well together. It's a shock that dealers don't hand out complimentary bottles of lube along side their bags of meth.
     
  3. LostGirl-in-a-LostWorld

    LostGirl-in-a-LostWorld Silver Member

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    Really?? So meth makes you horny??
    And he knows how I feel about his excessive amount of time spent with porn while our beds cold. It's getting old.
     
  4. Willyzh

    Willyzh Silver Member

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    Why don't you have some self-respect and ditch him? You think that staying with someone who is addicted to meth and hides in the bathroom all night is gonna work out good for you in the long run? What does any of that have to do with him caring about you?

    Do you have low self-esteem? Why would you put up with that?
     
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  5. LostGirl-in-a-LostWorld

    LostGirl-in-a-LostWorld Silver Member

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    I don't know how it'll work out, but I'm optimistic. We've been together a lil over two yrs, he's a great guy, we have a child, who are you to judge him? He's been doing meth for about 9 months. He still sleeps at night, eats all his meals, and goes to work 6 days a week, 10 hrs a day. He's thoughtful, he's faithful, he's kind, he's smart. We all have our issues, no ones perfect, and so you sit on your pedastool and say I have low self esteem? No my dear, I have integrity, and I will not let meth or porn steal away the man I love and the father of my child...
    I came looking for advice, testimonials, because not being a drug user myself, I'm unaware of all its side affects. However I have found this forum to be educational and helpful in giving me users views.
     
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  6. hookedonhelping

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    Then you need to tell him that. Meth makes you very horny and my only thought is that he feels like doing these sexual acts without you because you are not under the influence of the drug as well. This might be something you can ask him about. As you likely know, meth use is identifiable by the users behavior. There may be a bit of guilt on his part for using a drug like meth and his seclusion is his way of dealing with that guilt.
     
  7. Motorway

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    I think you need to discuss it with him and explain how it makes you feel. I strongly suspect he does not see the connection between his self pleasuring and your emotional exclusion but he does sound like he could take it onboard if pointed out.

    You are sure that is what he is doing in the bathroom? And not consuming more drugs? Just a thought. I hope you get sorted :)
     
  8. LostGirl-in-a-LostWorld

    LostGirl-in-a-LostWorld Silver Member

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    That's very true. Makes sense. Thanks :)
     
  9. Willyzh

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    I didn't make any assumptions, I asked a bunch of questions. I didn't judge anyone or make a single assumption.

    How do drugs and porn 'steal' your man? He is the one who chooses that behavior.

    So you only want user views that make everything easy? Do meth and have sex with him. (Ed. Note- this is obviously sarcasm) It's probably the most likely thing that will happen, or he will lose himself to drugs over time.

    Integrity would mean standing up for the fact that you aren't down with that behavior, and then maybe he would change. You're closer to a classic enabler, overlooking things you don't like in order to keep your family together.

    You actually can't call people cunt-for-brains on here, and I would never eat cheerios because they are garbage, mostly sugar. I don't put that in my body.

    Assumptions don't come in the form of a question.
     
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    willyzh

    Do meth and have sex with him???

    Are you being serious, whats wrong with you?
    Are you intentionaly looking to piss people of and argue?

    Soso
     
  11. Willyzh

    Willyzh Silver Member

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    No, it was an example of a user view that will make her life easy. It is obviously not my view.

    Willyzh added 2 Minutes and 19 Seconds later...

    If you read the rest of the post and see what context it is in, you'll easily be able to tell that it's not my point of view, but I am not worried about it.
     
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    To the OP, yes, as a huge (no pun intended), and as said by hooked, methamphetamine and being horny or sex/porn does go very well together. Now, not everyone enjoys sex while high on methamphetamine. My ex-fiance would hardly ever want to have sex when she was tweeking (slang for methamphetamine) and I would be ready and willing to give her a shot over masturbating. However, I noticed that if for whatever reason she would not have sex with me, I started masturbating and watching porn more. Hooked gave some great advice, and basically he is right (and in his own insulting way, so is Willyz) you should address this problem. I can buy that your husband is worth you going to bat for, but if you don't address this problem then he can turn into a person that is not any longer worth going to bat for. Laying down your feelings while using your head on how you do it (remember, it's not what you say but how you say it) is something that must be done. Hookeds advice of discussing it while being seductive is a great freaking idea. He will be more into listening to you because he is having a VERY loving wife going about it all in a great way........but, make sure if you follow this great advice that especially (might be better) if he is spun (high on methamphetamine), and I apologize for the language, you make sure you screw him so good that he would never want to use his hand. This is NOT an insult and suggesting you do not please him anyways at whatever time. You said you would fight for him, well, you go above and beyond so that you treat it as him getting sex from another woman and you showing why he would choose sex with you. Give it all an extra ten minutes if you get my drift.............in short make this man think "I can't see getting off without this woman"...then when you are done, get up, do your thing and before getting something to eat or go to the shower just look at him (you know.....then LOOK) and say "your welcome". *SHAKES HEAD YES*..and good luck.
     
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    *I edited it and indicated clearly that it was sarcasm.
     
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    What i dont understand, is how the porn is the problem here. If he is addicted to meth and stays in the bathroom all night, then he needs help. Your post suggests that you dont mind the meth so much as the inattention from your bf. i will tell you that you need to talk to him about the meth. Dont bring up the porn. That only needs to be addressed if it remains a problem after he gets off the meth.
     
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    Thank you all for the input and advice
     
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    Meth and porn go hand in hand. I used to watch hours of porn when I smoked the shit. Now that I inject I am chasing my rush and enjoying the needle instead. Meth fuels any desires you have and that is why it lasts for numerous hours. Whatever you enjoy will be doubled, if not tripled. Millions of meth users are stuck on porn while they are high and tweaked out.
     
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    Amphetamines are great for masturbation but the end result is always underwhelming. When I'm sober, i hate masturbating, but love the orgasm. On meth, i love the masturbation, but not the orgasm.
     
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    She asked for "Thoughts?" not help. It seems to me that someone can give thoughts that describe a range of interpretations, not just agreeable easygoing bullshit about how hiding in the bathroom doing drugs everyday when someone has a relationship and a child is ok, and something to work with.

    I see the problem as her downplaying the addiction. They've been together two years, and he has been doing meth only 9 months. He works all day, eats, sleeps and does meth in the bathroom. Where does a child fit into that scene? What else is there time for? He is faithful, but in the bathroom jacking off or doing more meth. How is that faithful? He is jacking it to a bunch of other women, who are not her.

    It really makes me wonder why the unpopular opinion, when a person asks for opinions and perspectives, is looked upon so critically. You all said I was insulting. You all talked a bunch of shit and then edited out your comments out of fear I would report them. She never said, "Thoughts that I will find easy and supportive and within my comfort zone?"

    You want to know what I think being a "cunt-for-brains" might look like? Asking for a bunch of opinions then thanking people for the ones that seem easy and being totally critical of the ones that are harder to hear. I've seen it time and again here. Everyone else saying, "oh that's all normal and shit..." meanwhile I am saying "Be careful that can fuck up your whoooole life." And then, you know what the OP comes back and reports shortly after? That their life is now fucked.

    So I will continue to share my thoughts, call me whatever.... Even on a drugs site I am a stand-alone, free-thinking person who could really give a fuck what anyone thinks of me.

    Also, meth makes a person horny where they want to have sex, if possible. That's my honest opinion. If he is substituting a bunch of videos for real actual sex, there is something else really wrong.
     
  19. LostGirl-in-a-LostWorld

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    I wasn't just thanking the positive posters. I appreciate your feedback though I think you come off a bad way. OBVIOUSLY meth is the real problem. But he doesn't lie to me about that. He lies to me about the porn. My issue is with Honesty. Well, one of my issues I guess.

    And he is a great father, he loves his son very much. You are not in a position to judge or even make comments regarding his relationship with our child. So excuse you for that. Of course I want the easy way, who wouldn't? I'm not a fool though, I know the battle that lies ahead of us. I always have the option to leave. My house is paid for, my car is paid for. Both in my name. It would be easy for me to walk away and leave this problem behind me. But I care about his well being. I care about his happiness. I care about his health. And I care about our relationship. If me trying to be understanding makes me a "classic enabler" then so be it.
    I hate that he spends hours in the bathroom with porn, yes. I hate that he's addicted to meth, yes. But is that all there is to him? No. He's an incredible person, inside and out, and call me naive, but I believe he will kick the meth one day. And if he doesn't, ill fight till I just can't hold on anymore. And Ill live my life and wish him well.

    Love conquers all things.
    Drugs destroy them.
    If you don't have hope, faith,
    What do you have??
     
  20. mckenadiane

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    That is correct, I believe everyone can change, change for the better and sometimes we might not notice it happened. Just be strong and don't easily give up, don't mind on the negative feedback.