Hello there. Longer post ahead, I just want to give some background. I hope I'm in the right place for this post, please correct me if I'm not. My husband and I have been together for 11 years. High school sweet hearts, super close, he's my best friend. However, this past December I found out that he has been addicted to taking opioids - hydrocodone, for about 4 years now. I had no idea. He hid it so well, goes to work on time, pays rent, cooks dinner, etc. We were a bit off/distant the last year or so but I never would have attributed it to this. One night when I kept pressing and asking what was going on with us he broke and came clean to me. I wanted him to get professional help right away. I told him I'd be supportive as long as I seen effort. He begged and begged for me to do it his way, he felt that since I knew now that he could taper himself off since there was no going back now. He gave me control of his bank account so I could see every financial move he made. It was hard, but wanting to keep his trust I agreed. I did let him know that if it doesn't work he has to go get help. Well, two months went by and he did it. He weaned off, it was hard but he did. Was able to pay his bills on time, etc. Things seemed pretty good during this time. I started to slow down on checking his bank every single day, because I wasn't finding anything. Not to mention by checking it every day it brought up such terrible emotions that I had to do this. Exhausting emotionally. I let a week go by, and now I'm kicking myself for it because I checked and sure enough cash withdrawals from the ATM. He relapsed. Now I know from research that relapse is part of the recovery experience but he lied to me... Even after I was very open with him the first time and I offered my help and understanding. Fooled. Now this time I THINK I have at least convinced him to try out patient therapy. Can this be successful? I'm just worried it's another excuse not to fully commit to getting clean. Has anyone had a family member find sobriety through out patient care?