G/f imagining other ppl during sex (weed)

Discussion in 'Sex and Drugs' started by NooYrdrop, Jun 7, 2005.

  1. NooYrdrop

    NooYrdrop Newbie

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    Last night my g/f and I were at her friends house drinking. They got on the topic of sex and weed. Her friend mentioned that when she had sex with her b/f that she would imagine other men (brad pitt, ex b/f's ect) and by doing that she wouldget super wet and excited.My g/f goes "oh my girl, I know about that" and they both started laughing.


    Now I was outside smoking a cig and that really bothered me! I'm fucking thinking my g/f is really fantasizing about other people while we fuck when high. When I'm high with my girlfriend and sexing, it feels good b/c everything is more sensitive on my body. I don't think about other women to make it better.


    We both agree sex is fucking great while high, but if she is acheiving this b/c she is fantasizing about other men/ppl, I'm going to have a fucking serious problem. Typing this is pissing me off. I want the sex to be good b/c of the way the weed makes our bodies feel, not b/c she is thinking about other ppl.


    I don't even know how to approach her about it, she could easily say I'm crazy and she has never done that before. I'm not trying to have a huge argument b/c of it. In this point in my life and our relationship I'm above that.


    Comments, suggestions, personal experieces welcome.
     
  2. Motorhead

    Motorhead Platinum Member & Advisor

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    First of all, women talk all the time about shit like that. Second of all everybody thinks about someone or something else, at least some of the time, drugs or no drugs.Come on, honestly, youve never thought about someone else. Come on now tell the truth[​IMG]


    Seriously tho, ask her about it. This could open up a whole new world of possibilities man[​IMG]
     
  3. NooYrdrop

    NooYrdrop Newbie

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    Of course I have had moments where I would think about some porn star, this would last seconds. Whether I'm high or not I think about how much I love my g/f. When I'm high I like to really squeeze and hold her while doing it, this makes it feel like we are melting together as one.


    The incredible sensitivity is what does it for me while high. It just FEELS BETTER, but not b/c I'm imagining another woman.


    I've noticed she prefers the lights to be off when we go at it high...


    You are right it could open up possibilities but I don't think I want that you know.
     
  4. sands of time

    sands of time Gold Member

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    I agree with motorhead, we all think about other people when fuckin. It's natural, animals were not ment to screw one partner exclusively. It's a natural urge to want to fuck as many woman as you can, but intellect allows us to know better, or at least some of us.
     
  5. enquirewithin

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    Yes-- don't worry about it. I know I have an active erotic imagination!
     
  6. PenguinPhreak

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    Fantasy is a healthy, positive thing. It also tends to be good for relationships, so you have nothing to worry about.
     
  7. NooYrdrop

    NooYrdrop Newbie

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    I'm trying to see where you guys are coming from but I'm having a hard time. If your wife, g/f, s/o fantasized about men during sex you would be ok with that?
     
  8. Motorhead

    Motorhead Platinum Member & Advisor

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    Im not gonna sit here and pretend to be an expert on women so what im gonna say here is just personal opinion, a little generalization ok. Women are freakin complicated creatures man, much more so than us men folk. They are much more complex on every level, especially the world of sexuality. I was gonna write a long post, but i think i can summarize my view by saying women have sex in their heads just as much as they do between their legs. Thats been stated in many different ways before, but I discovered through years of trial and error, lets say, that she isnt just having sex with my dick. know what i mean?? lol i dont know if i know what i mean aarrgghh, synapses failing, brain hurting, trying to figure out women ......cant do it[​IMG]lol


    Anyway, If shes in your bed, just go with it. Thats this old fools advice.
     
  9. enquirewithin

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    I get your point. If my girlfriend told me that, I would be upset, but
    its only a film star, just idle fantasy. But I still think its natural
    (her friend thinks the same thing), so don't take it to heart too much.[​IMG]

    Edited by: enquirewithin
     
  10. uqlfy

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    I wasnt gonna post but I just have to put my
    2cents in. Chill out man. I mean it's not like she said she
    pretends your her ex or something.

    She didnt know you were listening. Now I know you werent
    eavesdropping but thats what you get for listening to people speak in
    private. My grandma always used to say" peek not through a keyhole lest
    you be vexed".

    Unless she actually says "Ooooh Brad " during its no big deal. Everybody does that stuff sometime.

    If your really that upset talk to her about. If your close
    enough to have sex your close enough to talk about it. Hell you might
    even enjoy it more afterwards.
     
  11. NooYrdrop

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    OK I have a question for you. I haven't been smoking that long so I don't fully understand whats capable when high. When high, is it that much easier to make a fantasy seem like reality? If so try to explain to me how that becomes possible with weed.


    I myself just experiece the tingley, warm, numb body buzz.


    Something I found...


    <A name=8></A>Q. Is it okay to fantasize about sex with strangers during lovemaking with your partner?

    <DIV =>Sexual fantasy is probably the most universal of all sexual behaviors. Your experience of fantasizing during lovemaking is shared by the majority of the sexually active population. A rich fantasy life should be considered a bonus to your sex life. Although it is possible to enjoy your activity by focusing solely on what your partner does to turn you on, the addition of sexual fantasy may enhance your sexual arousal. There is evidence to support that fantasizing adds lubrication (in women) and more erectile power (in men) which leads to orgasm (in both men and women). Fantasies can add a great deal to every person's sex life, and should not become a source of guilt. Remember, fantasies, unlike actions, are your private thoughts and you have the right to maintain this privacy. However, being able to share your fantasies with your partner may give you both ideas for improving your sex life</DIV>Edited by: NooYrdrop
     
  12. transit

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    I think that it is cool, NooYrdrop,
    that you are asking for extra input around this.

    Good sex happens when we
    are opening and flowing. One of the best
    ways to crimp it is to start to place limits, such as you shouldn’t do this, you
    shouldn’t feel this, you shouldn’t think this.
    While focusing on trying not to do the taboo, we fail to pay attention
    and give energy to other things, and the juice goes out of our sex play.

    If you tell her that it
    isn’t ok for her to fantasize and she agrees and tries not to, it is going to
    mess up her experience and in turn yours.
    If she doesn’t really agree, but pretends to, it will mess up your
    relationship.


    You win by accepting her
    for all that she is. Forget about what
    she “should” be and focus on what she is – which you obviously enjoy. As lots have said above, fantasy is something
    that we humans do.Accept and enjoy what is.
     
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  13. chico

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    I think about other girls all the time. No way I would ever tell my wife that though. She would become suicidal.
     
  14. Motorhead

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    I find that weed or hash greatly enhances my sexual experiences, Nooyrdrop. It is one of the main reasons why i still smoke it from time to time.[​IMG]For me it is a twofold effect. It greatly increases my sense of touch, and it also gets my mind working on another level, and when i centre my thoughts on sexual ones.... ooooo yaa. So to answer your question it does increase my fantasizing powers, but the actual physical experience is heightened as well. Double bonus for me.
     
  15. BigJon

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    Dude my girl calls me her pimp when she's high and talks about me selling her pussy around town.



    It's just talk bro. Have fun with it and become part of the fantasy. [​IMG]
     
  16. seldor

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    o_O where did you get girl like that :p?
     
  17. BigRed

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    i get what u mean mean bro, she in a way is disrespectingYOU as her boyfreind and from what it seems ur love because u feel like i really like this girl for her but does she like me for me.i would be pissed too, but i don´t know what do in this situation, it´s a catch 22. hope it works out.


    take care.
     
  18. MegaLab420

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    hehehe, dude, I wouldn't think to much of it. Can you honestly admit you never think of other girls when stickin your lady?


    Im just wonderin what she might be imagining if you two got freaky after takin some cid!!
     
  19. Chaote

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    I dont think thinking aboiut movie starts etc is bad but if you think about an ex or a friend it is because its like well you thinking about em why dont u just go fuck em,
    But in the original post its say her friend said i think about ex b/f and stars and she said mm hmmm or whatever so she might be thinking bout ex b/fs
     
  20. als5555

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    it's not necessarily like people do it in purpose. the mind can wander, especially on drugs, i know mine does. one can also (depending on the drug) get so obsorbed in the feeling that they are not thinking of anything including the person they are either ridin or stickin. has any one ever said some one elses name? gettin so cought up in thinking of some one else that you just blab it, i hope i never do that, man that would be emberassing as all hell. if any one has please share.